Comments on: Miss Kate, Why Don’t You Have Any Girls?

By: Katie Fenske

Katie Fenske — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 05:19:28 +0000

In reply to Eria Myers. Life definitely threw a curve ball but yes, there is beauty in our blessings.

By: Eria Myers

Eria Myers — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 05:09:26 +0000

Eloquently written Katie. Loved reading this blog. Isn’t it amazing how life throws us curve balls and at the end of all the uncertainty, mixed overwhelming emotions, we are able to calmness & pure beauty in our blessings.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 29 Aug 2021 19:08:01 +0000

I just read your column on having three boys and no girls. I actually started to cry as I read how you said goodbye to prom dresses, planning a wedding etc. I too have had to say goodbye to those dreams and I have a daughter. My daughter was born with special needs. She is delayed in some areas and savant like I’m others. She will always live with us and although she is capable and doing great there are doubts in my mind and heart that she will ever get married and have kids. She never went to a dance , I never got to plan a wedding, all those mom/daughter dreams. But what I’ve learned is that she fills my heart and desires in other ways. I cherish those “other” ways that no one else can give me except my daughter. God had a plan when he gave me her, not exactly my plan but His plan is better. I hope you find lots of “boy”joys in the years to come.

By: Katie Fenske

Katie Fenske — Sat, 28 Aug 2021 23:48:42 +0000

In reply to Mindy. I love your perspective Mindy! I felt the same way, "what am I going to do with a boy?" I'm so glad that things worked out the way they did though!

By: Mindy

Mindy — Sat, 28 Aug 2021 20:46:05 +0000

I loved this and beautifully written Katie! I teased my husband for years that we were going to have 2 girls because he struck me as a girl dad. A man who needed some sweet hugs and glitter in his life to balance all that testosterone. I was totally on board with that, I’d been collecting baby girl clothes for years.

Our first was a girl (of course) but when the dr called to tell me our second was a boy… well good thing I was already sitting. I felt grief that I’d only seen those clothes but for a second and wasn’t going to get them back out, I’d seen them for the last time and didn’t know it. And like you… what was I going to do with a boy? I didn’t know anything about them.
As it would turn out my little boy is my sweet buddy and my daughter, a “daddy’s girl” has no interest in the tied at the hip relationship I envisioned with mom. I suspect that every 2+ kid family, regardless of genders, brings all these surprises and more… staying consistent with allllllll the things about pregnancy/babies/kids you can’t control!

By: Barbara

Barbara — Sat, 28 Aug 2021 15:33:35 +0000

I loved it! I feel better knowing I was not the only one to be disappointed during the ultrasound. I think I let out a faint “oh” and asked the tech to check again. Pete was excited and I felt like such a debbie downer. I felt so ungrateful and guilty. Baby is healthy and I always stated that that was the only important thing. Yet, a pit in stomach said otherwise.

On a different note, you had me giggle at “held him close to my chest, boy parts and all”